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February 21st, 2009 | Author:

You’ve probably heard the saying, “everyone’s a winner.”  A lot of people think that way.  The fact is, not everyone can win.   There will be winners and losers.   It’s not realistic that everyone can win.  Think of a sport.  You play all season and at the end, there are the playoffs and then the tournaments.  The purpose of the tournament is to see who is the best overall.  They become the winner.  Depending on the sport, the winning team gets an award or trophy.   Everyone else got the experience and fun of playing the sport.  But should they all get an award?

When I was in football and baseball, my teams didn’t win.  All the players still received trophies though.  The coaches even made a point saying they didn’t want to make anyone feel bad so gave everyone something.  It didn’t bother me that my team lost and I don’t think we deserved a trophy.  Another team won.  They deserved the trophy. 

I think people are too worried about hurting someone’s feelings.  Maybe if people realized that if you lose, you just have to try harder if you want to get that trophy, then they would be better off in the long run.

If people know they don’t have to try very hard and will still get rewarded, they’ll never really give it their all.   There is no sense of accomplishment for doing nothing versus someone who tried really hard and won.

My mom said she heard the other day that the Oscar Awards even changed their wording when someone wins.   They used to say, “And the winner is. . .”   Several years ago, they changed it to “And the award goes to. . . ”    Apparently, nominees that didn’t win felt too much like losers.  Even adults who should know better still may not be able to handle “losing.” 

My school promotes this kind of thinking also.   They give out what I call “just breathing awards.”   It seems like you don’t even have to try to “get” something in return.  How does that teach anything in life?

So what’s the point?  Sometimes you’ll win and sometimes you’ll lose.  Life doesen’t always have to make everyone happy with the outcome.   My parents have taught me to try my best and if I win, that’s great.  If I lose, then I should realize I have to try harder next time if I want to win.

Let there be losers and let there be winners but everyone can’t win and it should be okay to say “you lost.”

February 13th, 2009 | Author:

No matter how hard you try to keep positive and do the right things, sometimes something or someone throws a wrench in your day.   Because I don’t want to focus on the bad parts, I’ll tell you the good things that happened first.   Not sure if the good stuff is the ying or the yang.

On Wednesday, I had a phone interview with Shonika Proctor for her teen CEO teleseminars.   Shonika is the founder of Renegade CEO’s.   She found me on Twitter with the help of Carrie Wilkerson.   If you’re reading this post and you aren’t following them, Shonika is @teenbizcoach and Carrie is @barefoot_exec.  They’ve both been terrific and given me a ton of support.  Shonika and I talked for almost an hour about business, charity, and tips to help other kids who may be thinking about starting a business or donating to charity.

On Thursday, I received my copy of the February issue of Inventor’s Digest magazine.  Editor, Mike Drummond (on Twitter at @inventorsdigest) interviewed me a few months ago so I had quite awhile to wait.  He surprised me with a page and a half article and a really cool photo which you just have to see.   Here’s the link.    Then last night as we were eating dinner, my dad got a text message from someone at his company on the east coast.  The guy said he subscribes to the magazine and had just seen my story.  That was really ironic but very cool!

Today, I made it to MSN.com in the Money section.  Abby Ellin wrote an article about four young execs and I was one of them.   Actually, I was also the youngest.  Seems like I’m usually the youngest but that doesn’t bother me a bit.

I’m also the current guest on the web radio show, Mind Your Bizness with Danielle Hampson.   Danielle has followed me since I first started my business and has given me a lot of support and encouragement.

Here’s the yang of the week.

On Thursday, I got slammed against a cement wall by a kid in my class.  I needed some ice for awhile but was fine after that.  I was more bothered that he did it at all.   After both of us talked with the principal, he ended up getting suspended but only for today.   Maybe things will be different now.

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February 02nd, 2009 | Author:

#5 – Believe in yourself and what others think, won’t matter.

 

Growing up is hard.  Just ask anyone.  Now ask a kid.  They’ll tell you it’s even harder.  But I bet almost every generation of kids have said that.  

I’ve heard adults say they are glad they’re not a kid in today’s world.  Everything seems to go so fast.  There are so many influences and distractions, it is hard to stick to what you believe in.  Even if you are a good student, school life is difficult at times.  Kids, especially boys, can be very mean.  Teachers don’t always understand.  And parents, well . . . I’m lucky and think I have the best parents in the world, but it’s the law of nature that we are going to disagree and argue.  All that is just part of growing up and everyone has probably had similar experiences.

 

Now take all that and add in the fact that you are a kid with a business.  A young entrepreneur.  That makes you different from all the other kids you know.  Most people just don’t get it.  Some even think you have nothing more than a little hobby. It’s frustrating for sure.   Sometimes people try to look interested and understand what you are doing but the blank stare tells it all.  It can make you wonder if what you are doing is worth it.

 

What would life be like if you were just an ordinary kid?  No business.  No income.  No extra work.  No public speaking.  Just a regular kid.  Everyone has moments that make them wonder.  If you are lucky enough to have people in your life that believe in you, they remind you to believe in yourself.  It’s not easy sometimes because you are looking from the inside out.  You don’t always see what they see.

 

My parents have always believed in me.  They have encouraged me with all my ideas.  They have reminded me that what others think now won’t matter in the long run.  It’s true.  It’s just hard to see that sometimes. 

 

So here’s my advice.  If you have moments or doubts, it’s okay to feel bad but don’t hang onto it for too long.  Find that extra 10% as my mom says.   Believe in yourself.  Get going.  In the end, it’s up to you.

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